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How do You Influence the Others in Your Life?

04 Wednesday May 2011

Posted by blogsense-by-barb in America, blogsense, Character, Current Events, life, Musings, Parenting, thoughts

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"life lessons", character, character training, children, Human nature, morality, parents, responsiblity, society

Have you heard a child echo some unsavory word you recently spoke? Or witnessed a child mirror a thoughtless act?

I worked with small people for many years, and I am all too familiar with the attitudes and words they say. These little ones repeat what they hear! Little eyes are always watching and little ears are always listening. When they misbehave, they are mimicking behavior they have seen … someplace!

Each of us (parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, teacher, friend) influences the life of a child(ren) in ways we never realize and seldom consider. In fact, there is nothing that any one of us says or does that does not influence at least one other person. Nothing! Not those under-your-breath murmurs. Not the silently mouthed curses. Not the slamming of a door or the throwing of a dish. These acts are not for our benefit, but for the benefit of someone else. To make them feel guilty, or embarrassed, or ashamed … something.

Think about this is regards to some of the major news events of the past weeks. If a Royal Wedding was important to you, who now knows that? What was your response to the Wedding? Why?

What about the killing of Osama Bin Laden or an election? How did that affect you? What are the effects of his death as you perceive them? How has your response affected your children or loved ones? Do your children understand what an Election is?

Responsibility is one of those character issues that has, in many respects, gone by the wayside. I was a child in the 50’s and 60’s. When I was younger (than I am now,) children did not dare talk back to their parents. If they did, they knew they’d pay a stiff price. Either sitting down would be very uncomfortable for a few days, or the taste of soap would fill our senses for some time. School discipline came into play for chewing gum or being late for class. A wild night out as a teen meant hanging out in a McD’s parking lot sneaking a cigarette!

A myriad of events of the 60’s changed everything, and not for the better. The failures I see in today’s society are a result of these history-changing events. Studies note some of these changes, but not all of them made the news. The shadows of rebellion of the 60’s fill novels and dramas, yet until prayer or quiet times “suddenly” disappeared from schools, and abortions were”suddenly” legalized, the changes were so gradual that no one really noticed. The View Nam War and the subsequent protests gave young people, in particular, but everyone, really, an excuse to disregard their elders and “the Establishment.” “Free Love” justified the anger about the war and breakdown of the family. Sex became a form of self-expression, and often perverted. And on and on. Bit by bit, the “establishment” was dethroned, dis-empowered, and disassembled. Problem is, nothing replaced it but emptiness. No moral code. No boundaries. No goals. Just, “if it feels good, do it!”

Now, we are left with a generation that is lost. Amidst the international turmoil, individuals search for meaning, for purpose, for direction. Social structure stripped away years ago left today’s generations without boundaries. Without a moral code of some sort, there is no direction, no pathway, and no goals. Too many people care about nothing but themselves. Could this be a reflection of the “ME Generation” come to fruition?

Too many parents have children today only to put them into state or private facilities as early as 3 weeks of age. These children go in the morning, are picked up in the evening, taken home, fed, and put to bed. No family interaction time, little or no parental influence. I understand the conundrum. Two incomes are necessary to maintain life in today’s economy, but at what expense?

Our children, American children, need their parents’ love, support, guidance, and instruction. They need to be nurtured and trained to prepare for life as an adult, and that job is much bigger than schooling. Though our morality may differ from one to another, something is better than nothing! Parents are responsible for the children they produce. Someone needs to teach Fathers and Mothers that being a parent means more than the biological act. The schools can’t do it. For some reason, most churches aren’t doing it well. It’s up to parents, as it should be, to build into our children some kind of moral compass to guide them through life.

In nature, if you want to produce a carrot, do you plant an elm tree? If you want to produce potatoes, do you plant petunias? Of course not! I believe the same holds true with character. If you want to produce honesty, be honest. If you want to produce kindness, be kind. If you want your children to be responsible, teach them by example. Remember the cliché: A picture is worth a 1000 words? True enough!

How do you influence the children in your life? They’re watching!

“The only foundation of a free Constitution, is pure virtue, and if this cannot be inspired into our people, in a greater measure than they have it now, they may change their rulers, and the forms of government, but they will not obtain a lasting liberty.” –John Adams, letter to Zabdiel Adams, 1776

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Stop Teaching Kids to Bully! Lead by Example!

05 Tuesday Apr 2011

Posted by blogsense-by-barb in blogsense, education, Leadership, life, politics

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"Buffalo Springfield", "life lessons", American Moral Character, behavior, bullies, bully, bullying, children, compassion, differences, empathy, teach, values

Bullying is not a new thing. Kids have always sought the solitary differences among them to ridicule. We dealt with it and eventually learned to fight back … nicely, of course. Problem is, the culture in the 50’s, and early 60’s was a bit gentler than today, even with the unwanted war actions.

Kids learn to bully … somewhere?

Let me ask you this: What do our children learn from TV/movies/video games … the NEWS? (Not, what do they watch) What is shown to them? Do we teach them to appreciate the differences of others? Or do we teach “If you don’t believe like me, you’re WRONG!” ?

  • Left v Right
  • Republican v Democrat,
  • Union, v Non-Union,
  • North v South,
  • Christian v Islam,
  • Male v Female
  • … and on and on we go in our dichotomic world. Why are there only two choices? When there are but two choices, if you don’t agree completely with me, you must be wrong. I mean, who believes the wrong thing by choice???

    Grown ups must start acting like adults, and stop teaching our children to bully!

    “Battle lines being drawn. Nobody’s right if everybody’s wrong!


    Buffalo Springfield – For What It’s Worth 1967

    Our children learn what we teach them. More specifically, children learn what they SEE and HEAR routinely. WE teach our children to either embrace the differences of others or question them. We teach our children to judge others even as we tell them not to because we teach with our behavior. When we scoff at the fat man across the street, or the short person struggling to get onto the bus, or the person who doesn’t appear as “handsome” as we might wish, we are teaching our children the ideology the produces bullying. When we sneer at the “sinner” across the parking lot of the church, synagogue or mosque we just left, are we displaying the compassion ALL major religions preach or the judgment condemned in all holy writings? It doesn’t have to be a sexuality issue! Kids have always been just plain mean! They find ANY difference reason enough to bully! Sounds kinda like our politicians, doesn’t it? Uh, behavior has to be learned some place!

    Someday, just for fun, we should try to APPRECIATE our differences … just for fun, mind you! 😉 It might be too productive, I understand. We might learn to value other perspectives and maybe, just maybe, learn a thing or two. Maybe!

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    What Ever Happened to IMAGINATION?

    30 Wednesday Mar 2011

    Posted by blogsense-by-barb in blogsense, education, life, toddlers

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    "breast-feeding doll", "free play", "life lessons", children, choices, education, freedom, imagination, parenting, pressure, priorities, toddlers

    Breast-Feeding Doll Video

    This story has crept across the web from news pages to social networks. Do Breast-Feeding Dolls Cross The Line? I understand the commotion! The same week we read about push-up bikini tops for 8 yr old girls, and the distributor compromises by saying they’ll remove the “push-up” part of the description, we are then shown these dolls that produce a sucking sound when held against the chest of a child wearing the accompanying nursing garment.

    The arguments I hear center on the sexuality of the issues. My argument is more fundamental. My concern is the lack of explorative imagination involved in both of these items. First, part of the fun of being a “little” girl is wanting to grow up, wanting our body to grow and change into that of a young woman. We IMAGINE what it will be like to be teens, to have a woman’s body. We IMAGINE what a loving relationship will be like. We IMAGINE the joy of pregnancy and birth and all that accompanies those events. We can explore the possibilities freely just using our IMAGINATION.

    As adults, we already put so much pressure on our children to perform … to be moulded into what WE believe a healthy child should be. We listen to that expert and this article, that talk show host and, of course, our mothers-in-law! When do our children get to be KIDS? We arrange “play dates” for them with the playmates of OUR choosing and that often includes the activity we’ve chosen. How much FREE time do our children have to cultivate their imaginations?

    Our culture seems to be moving toward the production of clones, all children squeezed into a specific mould, “one-size-fits-all,” with the priority of “success” at any cost. The heck with morality. The heck with genuine creativity. The heck with individuality. The heck with imagination! The means justifies the end. After all, isn’t that success?

    Is this where we really want to go???

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