Is Christmas a day or season you
Advent heralds a … COMING! What’s coming?
For years, Christmas has NOT been on my Top 10 list of Favorite Days! No, really! I have some peculiar reasons, but then any of you who read my blog regularly already find me … well, a little “touched!”
When my children were small, I entered into a deeply “religious” time. Don’t get me wrong! It wasn’t cultish or occultish … just I went through ALL the motions, did everything a good Christian wife should do for her family, to the best our budget allowed, but … I just didn’t enjoy it.
I struggled with the “Santa” issue: Is there a Santa or isn’t there? What to teach my kids. My X-husband was NO help! (bless his sweet little disconnected heart!) The Santa issue was an “educational” issue for me – knowing the limits of a toddler brain function, I understood a child’s inability to distinguish FACT from FICTION. I didn’t want my kids to confuse Jesus with Big Bird! Call me silly!
So, my kids grew up knowing mommy, daddy, family and friends bought them gifts, but I also taught theme it was our little secret. That many children think Santa brings gifts and that’s OK. I said, “Shhhhh! Don’t tell them the truth! They’ll figure it out one day!”
For the most part that worked without a hitch! So … what was the real problem?
Try as I might, I could not (and still can’t) comprehend how creating a self-indulgent holiday and calling it a Christian holiday just didn’t sit right with me. Jesus and his teachings are anything but self-indulgent, and yet, suddenly on this one day, we’re encouraged to be greedy?
Many times when my kids were small, we spent Christmas day at a Nursing home with forgotten seniors or those too far from family or relatives to visit for the day. Sometimes we took candybars or trinkets to give them, but sometimes we went empty-handed. NEVER, however, did we leave empty-handed! Each time we took the time to do this, it was a tremendous experience for each of us – something each of the kids talked about for weeks afterwards.As I’ve matured (in addition to getting better, that is) I’ve mellowed on the religion thing a little. Am I less devout? NO! Just less “religious” about who I am and what that means. I still don’t participate in the self-indulgence of Christmas. Instead, I continue to build and establish Family Traditions for my kids to carry on with their own children as they arrive. We have “game nights” and sing-alongs; we drive around and look at lights. We participate in family activities – go to museums, enjoy Seasonal music events … as a Family, as much as possible. We make memories … treasure our government cannot steal!
What’s coming for you?